Admitted we were powerless over our addictive behaviors, that our lives had become unmanageable.
In this step, we recognize how much our compulsions have taken over our lives. We used to think that we could “manage it,” but we have finally reached the point where we can come out of our denial and see what others around us already know: our behavior is out of control.
In acknowledging that we have a problem, we can begin to recognize the excuses:
- I’m not as bad as . . .
- I can stop whenever I want.
- I only do it sometimes.
- I have it under control.
- I do it because I like it.
- Who else could deal with all of this?
- If I don’t do it, no one else will.
- I’m not hurting anyone else.
Step 1 is about surrender and accepting the reality of our situation. It’s about taking off the blinders and seeing our behavior for what it really is. We begin to understand the ways we justify what we are doing and coming to the obvious conclusion that we need to change.